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Traditional Wedding

Here below we mention enough from the old customs and which some of them exist up to today in the community of Tersefanoy.

CYPRIOT TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

Matchmaking

Matchmaking took place through a matchmaker or a ember of the family, who talked to the parents of the bride and tried to convince them. They always considered whether the young man came from a good family, if he had some money and if he was hard working. When he came from another village, then it was the parents' duty to visit that village and ask people there if he was good or not. Most of the times, the bride's to be opinion were not considered.

Logiasma

At logiasma, only close relatives were invited, such as godparents, aunts and uncles, grandparents, siblings and the priest, who would conduct a prenuptial agreement. This agreement was regarded legal and this is where the dowry was agreed. After this procedure, they all gather around to eat.

Engagement

 Not everyone was invited to the engagement party. The couple exchanged rings and handkerchiefs. The father of the bride was responsible to provide the house, in which the couple was supposed to live.

Preparations for the wedding

The invitation for the wedding took place a month before the wedding day by the parents of the couple.

On Friday night all the relatives would gather together to wash the meat, and start preparing traditional food.

On Saturday the sawing of the couple's mattress took place. This festive custom included an orchestra consisting of violin and a lute, dances, songs and "tsattismata" (Cypriot word play singing). The couple's mattress was filled with pure wool and 5 or 7 young unmarried women or women that were only married once would sew it together.

While this was done they kept the musical instruments playing low so that friends and relatives would sing appropriate songs. Relatives would also place money on the bed for the couple, known as "ploumisma".

Then the in-laws started dancing while holding bed sheets. Just before the dance commenced it was accustomed to put small children on the bed and roll them on it. If they put a boy, they believed that the young couple's first born would be a boy as well. If they rolled a girl it would be a girl.

WEDDING SUNDAY

Preparation of the bride

On Sunday afternoon, just before the couple went to church, the bride got ready for the wedding at her family house with the help of her maids of honour ("koumeres"). She wore her wedding dress, and they would help her with her jewellery and other decorative items, fix her hair and her father and mother would give her their blessings.

While the preparations took place, relatives and friends would sing to her under the sounds of the violin and lute.

Shaving of the groom

The shaving of the groom took place at his family house included, aside from the shaving, him putting on his suit and grooming. The barber would give him a shave and do his hair accompanied by the violin.

The best man helped him get dressed and sang appropriate songs along with relatives and friends.

The groom was escorted by his parents and relatives, accompanied by violin players from his family house up to the brides' house and from there the go all together to the church.

During the mystery the priest tells the Isaias dance and the newlyweds (neonymfoi) they made the traditional round, the best men knocked the back of the groom in order to he can bear weights of married life and they threw rice in the pair that symbolized the prosperity.

After the performance of marriage the newlyweds (neonymfoi) return to their house (if it was not finished they went to the fatherly house of the bride) and accepted the wishes and the gifts of their guests. It followed junketing with the escort of orchestra. Following the couple first dance the relatives and their friends put money on their clothes (ploymizman).

Monday after the wedding

On Monday after the wedding, afternoon all relatives walk around the village and collect chickens from everyone (chorianoys), they hang (kremmazan) on a stick (kontari) and took them in the house of the newlyweds (neonymfon), and cooked them. The menu was supplemented with spaghettis. Afterwards they enjoy and dance with the escort of violin and lute.

Tuesday after the wedding

On Tuesday after the wedding, namely two days after the wedding, the newlyweds invite in their house for lunch only the best men and best of bride (koymeres) and the narrow relatives. In this feast was not essential the presence of orchestra.

Antigamos (second wedding)

The first Sunday after the wedding the newlyweds would invite to their home all their family and relatives for a feast. This was called the "antigamos".

Today almost no one of the above what we mention is taking place. The newlyweds organize their marriage in hotels and through a party for the guests in special rooms' reception that allocates orchestra and food. The guest wishes the couple the best and leaves a present for them usually an envelope with money inside.

 
 
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